- Eggnog or hot chocolate?
Hot Chocolate but when it’s only warm because I don’t like hot things. Custard should really be an option. - Colored lights on tree/house or white?Â
Always colored. - What’s your favorite holiday dish *including dessert?
Ham. - Do you open gifts on Christmas Eve?Â
We were allowed to open one because I was impatient. - Real tree or fake tree?Â
We have always had a fake one. Go watch how fast real ones can catch on fire and burn your house down. - What’s the most important thing about Christmas to you?Â
Having ham. - What is your favorite tradition?
We watch Family Stone every year and then they tell me how I’m just like Amy. - What tops your tree?
Tom Selleck and Prefontaine. - Do you prefer giving or receiving?
I love getting things but giving a really awesome gift is better. - What is your favorite Christmas song?
Merry Christmas (I don’t want to fight) – The Ramones. - Candy Canes, yuck or yum?
Solid for like ten minutes. - Favorite Christmas movie?
Family Stone. - What do you leave for Santa?
Pepsi and cookies. - Do you have a Christmas morning tradition?
It use to be wake everyone up at five a.m. and we would open gifts. Now we don’t do anything. - Do you prefer to shop online or at the mall?
Online shopping is one of the worlds greatest things. - Christmas letter or card?
I always send out cards. Depending on the amount of energy I sometimes even write letters.(These are suppose to be Christmas Icebreakers, so were counting them) - What is your favorite bumper sticker of all time? Â Or, create a new one.
Pucker up & blow. Not that anyone gets the reference this is from. - Pick something out of your pocket / purse and share why it is important to you.
I have a lacrosse ball and hockey puck signed by my Swedish love in my backpack. It’s important to me because I get bored and toss it between my hands and also I sometimes throw it at people for being foolish. - What Christmas song from childhood do you still have memorized? Extra points if anyone can sing along!
The jingle bell rock song that this dancing Santa we use to have would sing. - Plane, train or automobile… what is your most memorable trip in one of these?
Plane: Probably flying home from Florida first class. Only cause the seats were big.
Train: I’ve only been on a train for this Halloween thing and the witches scared me.
Automobile: The day before Chad left we drove around and he let me blast Bowie. - What is one question you wish people would ask more often?
‘How did you get to thinking about that?’ - Name one place you could never live because of the winter weather.
Greenland hahahah get it? - What was the most memorable holiday celebration you had at school?
Halloween because in fifth grade I realized that I thought dressing up was lame and at the party all the parents freaked out that I didn’t dress up. - What sport or hobby confuses you the most?
Rock collecting. In Girl Scouts we had to bring in our hobby and I didn’t have one. So I went in my backyard and just grabbed a bunch of rocks. - Share a memorable gift-opening moment from your childhood.
My dad had this box of random stuff from his pass and I found old love letters from a bunch of random girls so I gave them to him on Christmas and he didn’t remember any of them. I got yelled at later by my mom saying I shouldn’t snoop through peoples stuff. - What is a Christmas song that makes you cringe?
That one about the Hippo - What is a phrase or quote that comes to mind that helps you when you are stressed?
Solider up. My grandma told me how her friend would always say it and she hated it. So I started saying it. - If there were a moment in your life that you could do over, what would it be?
Probably last March. - When you close your eyes and think of your “happy place,” where is it?
All I see when I close my eyes are the face that goes like -___- - If you could have any job in the world for one day, what would it be?
President obviously so I could change our national anthem to the Hendricks and Boston version. Actually maybe a coroner cause how neat would that be. - What is one thing in your bedroom that really sums up your personality?
Vacuum Cleaner. - How early do you think you should be allowed to open Christmas presents?
Whenever I am willing to get up. - If you could bring any Disney character to life, who would it be?
Ariel. Someone needs to set that girl straight. - Which store would you never want a present from?
Hobby Lobby. - If you could have one wish granted at Christmas, what would it be?
Getting what I want - Finish this sentence: “Please don’t make me read a book about _____.”
Margret getting her period or whatever that one was. - What is your red flag that someone isn’t going to make a great friend?
They questions my questions. - Complete this sentence: “The best way to spend a Saturday in December is ___.”
Drunk. No. I don’t know - What is the one thing you want to do regularly but always forget?
Shutting a door. I always want to when I leave a room but I never remember if I do so then I go back and check. Then end up going back again to make sure it’s shut all the way. - Describe what family means to you in four words.
Payne in my ass.
Blogmas Day Five- Essentials for Winter






- Oversized sweaters. My favorite thing in the whole world. My closet is full of them. I generally get them from second hand stores or they’re ones that I found in my basement. These are two of my favorite. The grey one is older than me.
- Burts Bees. It’s the only chapstick I like to use. I have one in my car, backpack, key backpack, and all over my room. One time I even used up a complete one before without losing it. Really proud of that.
- Gloves. These ones are from Target.
- Sherpa Blanket. I have so many. My dogs ended up stealing some. I keep one in my car year round (I dont recommend putting on grass though). I’m weird and like bringing my own blanket to my friends house.
- Socks. I’m a big fan of socks.  These are the Worlds Softest Socks (actually the name of the brand). They are hella cozy. I found them at my local garden store.
- Slippers. I started getting these slippers when I was in fourth grade in California. Now I have like seven pair. I wear them around the house in the winter. Outside every other seasons. They make one with stuff on the bottoms so you can. Also a fan of the leg warmers.
I know these are suppose to be winter essentials but honestly I use / wear them all year round except for the gloves.
Blogmas Day Three – Holiday Wishlist
I live for days like today. It was technically ‘below freezing’ but the sun was out  which made everything better. I went to the nursery and I get my Christmas cactus! It was all decorated. I thought that the bushes were shaped as llamas. Turns out it was a reindeer, lame. These last few days have been odd. I’ve gotten that heart racing feeling that ends up in the pit of your stomach. I don’t want I think or feel about anything anymore.


Last year my family decided not to get each other gifts. We kind of skipped Christmas overall. My sister hasn’t come home during the holiday in a few years. All we did was a family dinner and thats because I like food. It would be foolish of me to skip that. This year we are kind of doing the same thing. I’m weird when it comes gifts. I love giving them but I don’t really like getting them. I don’t have a wishlist really so I’ll show you what I plan on buying myself / already got myself.
- Aloe infused socks. I love socks. Always the perfect gift. That and blankets.
- Blaq peel off face mask. This guy in Sweden told me to try it and it’s wonderful.
- A 2019 calendar (spent hours trying to find one that starts on Monday)



Things I’ll get around to buying myself
- New Docs. I love the ones I have but a taller pair is always better.
- New tooth brush heads because I get geeked about this sort of thing.
- New jean jacket to put all my patches on.
- Probably more plants.
Blogmas Day Three – Past Post
This is suppose to be a post where I go back and view one of my old posting reflect on it. Given that I just started this a few weeks ago I thought it would be foolish to do so. I found my journal from last year. I’ve never been good at keeping journals. This person I knew told me I should so one day he could read it. Anyhow this is from January 13th, 2018.
“The past is our definition. We may strive with good reason to escape it, or to escape what is bad in it. But we will escape it only by adding something better to it.”
(On the left page of the journal I would always write a quote or song lyrics. This is because I hate writing on the left pagers of things. The binding against my hand, drives me crazy.)
 January 13th, 2018.
“Being numb is an odd feeling. You exist. Your body is physically there and the world is going on around you. Mentally though, you’re not. You’re off on another planet. Looking down on those who seem a million light years away. The voices surround you. It’s a muffled sound that floats around your head. The song Dark Blue is an accurate representation of the feeling. I can sit in a crowded room with everyone I love yet I won’t feel a thing.’
I haven’t felt that way in a while.
Blogmas Day Two – December Bucket List
Shopping for Christmas lights is the most stressful thing. We have had the same ones for three years. Each year I find cooler lights and I want them. One of our light strips burnt out so we get to get new ones (I was already on the roof when I realized it). Why don’t people have lights year round?
Heres the December bucket list so far.
- Rochester Light Show
- Visit the DIA
- Steam clean my carpet
- Send out holiday cards
- Make tortellini from scratch
- Get drunk and go to Target
- Go to the Eastern Market
- Visit Bronners
- Attempt to learn to ski / snowboard
- Find a Christmas cactus
- Finish Christmas lights
- Zoo Lights
Ho Ho Hopefully / Blogmas Day One.
Happy best day of the year! For the last eight years or so I spend every December 1st listening to this album on repeat. I’ve been counting down the days till I could finally play this again. Today, I’ve listened to each song at least twenty times so far.

I spent most of yesterday in my room. I wasn’t feeling good the day before. I thought that I had the flu but I was constantly dry heaving and now throwing up. Â I repotted all of my plants for the upcoming season. I now have three snake plants because new one keeps growing from the one I originally got two years ago. Hopefully they do good in my garden window during the winter.
Blogmas Day One- Introduction
I’m not sure what made me decide to do this. A few people I follow posted about it so I figured why not give it a shot. Knowing me I won’t post everyday. Some post may have a couple of days together. Cheers to the start of December.
Blogmas 2018 Adventure
So I figured I’d join in on this whole Blogmas thing. It will be a good way for me to keep posting. I couldn’t find one that I liked everything on it. Instead I went through a bunch and picked the ones I thought would be interesting. Here are the days!
- Introduction
- December bucket list
- Past Post
- Holiday Wishlist
- Essentials for the winter
- The Christmas Survey
- What’s In My Bag – Winter Edition
- Favorite Christmas films
- Holiday playlist
- A look at your phone
- ——–
- Post a picture of your holiday card
- What you’re reading
- ——–
- What’s on My Christmas Tree
- ——
- A week in the life of you
- Would You Rather? – Christmas edition
- Holiday beverage recipes
- ———-
- ——–
- A letter to yourself about the year
- For the future
The Sinking Feeling.
I should know better by now than to do things like this. I set myself up for it every time. Some part of me knows that the feeling that I’m left with will slowly eat away at me until I find something to start the process over again. Sometimes there a gap of days in-between where my mind is clear. Still, it’s a never ending cycle. It starts in the pit of my stomach and works its way up towards my heart. Which is left racing leaving an aching feeling after. It’s the small things that get to me. Finding out something someone said. Reading something that I know I shouldn’t. Talking to people who are only going to hurt me. I’ve been doing this for as long as I can remember.  My curiosity always gets the best of me.
If Not Now, When?
Since it was nice out yesterday I decided that I should get my Christmas lights put up and finally rake up the leaves in my yard. Turns out, I hate raking leaves as much as I did when I was little. I learned on Black Friday that if you have to do something that’s not enjoyable drinking can help spice it up. I don’t drink as much as I use to last year (even then I didn’t drink much). With my tolerance low it didn’t take more than a few shots to get drunk. After raking the leaves I laid on my driveway talking to my mom. We chatted about how I will be in the upcoming months. I reassure her as I constantly do that I know I will have my highs and lows but I’ll let her know if things get bad and I need a change. When I get cold I go and sit in my car with a blanket so that’s what I ended up doing. Heat on high, snuggled up in a blanket with my feet on the dashboard (note: I did not do any driving the car was never taken out of park. I sat in my driveway). As I continued thinking I realized that I haven’t done much with my life.
Over the last nine months I have been getting this weird feeling in my stomach. It’s like theres a fire waiting to be lit. Last night I realized finally what it was. I have so many things that I want to do with my life. For years I’ve been telling myself that I will do all the things I want to but I’ve never gotten around to it. So if not now, when? Starting now I’m going to start doing the things I want to and love.
Things to do that will light the ‘fire’ (bucket list I guess)
- Rock n’ Roll Hall of Fame
- Watch the sun rise on the east side of the state
- Watch the sunset on the west side the same day.
- Spend a month in Sweden.
- Take a music theory class
- Learn to ski
- Listen to alone while doing the things they mention in it
- Visit a sunflower field
- Road trip across the country
- See the Northern Lights
- Take bar tending class
- Re-learn to play Poker
- Sail a boat
- Go camping somewhere with a great view
- Fish on the ocean & great lakes
- Attend a murder mystery dinner
- Dress up and go bowling (never did this in high school for homecomings so)
- Go to a silent disco
I’ll continue to add to this over time.
It’s That Time of Year Again.
The first snow has fallen. Holiday lights are being put up. Christmas music has begun playing on the radio. Thanksgiving is over and Black Friday is in full swing. It is officially now what people refer to as ‘the most wonderful time of year’. I suppose in the spirit of everything we are bound to be oblivious to the things around us. I’m not talking about religion (I avoid that topic). I mean the fact that we all get so caught up in what we want we tend not to think of others. Everyday we cross paths with a stranger. You don’t wonder who they are, where they’re going, or what they have going on in their lives. They’re just someone you saw for a few seconds and you don’t give them a second thought.
This is the part where I wish I could tell you that I am a great person. That I’m selfless, compassionate, thoughtful, and have a heart of gold. Truth is, I don’t always put others before me. I take things for granted. Sometimes I don’t treat everyone with respect.  I’m just this human living her life. I have flaws and make mistakes constantly but everyday I try to be a little bit of a better person than I was the day before.
I have been extremely fortunate when it’s come to the life that I live. My family is your average middle class and about half of our town can be considered pretty wealthy. I’ll be honest, I was very ungrateful (realistically a straight up bitch) for the things that I had growing up. I would get upset that our house wasn’t as big some of those around us or how we didn’t go out of town every school vacation. My parents always put my sister and I above everything else. They bent over backwards for us to have all of the things we wanted even if it wasn’t a necessity. All they ever have wanted for us is to be happy and healthy. We have always been encouraged by them to pursue our dreams, love who we want, and be the best we can be. Over the years I learned just how lucky I was and I will forever be grateful.
If you take the time to get to know someone you realize that everyone has something going on in their lives. There are those who seem to have the world at there finger tips when in reality their lives are falling apart. The people who put on a brave face and do their best to get through the day.
I suppose where I’m trying to go with this is that just because people refer to it as the most wonderful time of the year it doesn’t mean that it is that way for everyone. Some may be having their first holiday without a loved one. Others may be trying their best to get by. While we are all caught up with excitement of the holidays don’t forget about others. It’s not all about the lights and the gifts. Â Give to others if you can. Take some time and appreciate what you have. Enjoy the time with the people in your life. Check in on your friends and family, smile at the stranger on the street, it all may be small thing but it can go a long way.